Sincerely, Sara: How to Deal with Bare Minimum Versus Low Effort

By Sara Kaufman

Edited by Taylor Morgan

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Do you ever feel like someone in your life is just “doing the least?” You most likely are not imagining it. But there’s a big difference between bare minimum and low effort, and knowing can save you a lot of frustration. 

So what does the bare minimum look like? The bare minimum is things like completing tasks, but never going above and beyond expectations. Or responding to messages or conversations, but never initiating them. People doing the bare minimum meet the requirements, but often do not invest extra energy. This often comes from habit, mimicking others, routine or simply burnout. 

Many people think low effort is the same thing. But in my opinion, it is much more unacceptable. Low effort could be flaking on plans, deadlines or commitments. The person could also be consistently late or be extremely slow at responding to messages. They often only communicate when it benefits them. This signals genuine disinterest or lack of investment in another person or activity. Unlike the bare minimum, low effort makes you feel ignored or unimportant. 

There are different strategies for you to deal with yourself or other people giving low effort or the bare minimum. The first step is to identify which situation you are dealing with, as it will help with your response. Next, you should communicate clearly using “I feel” statements. Do not assume how they feel and that they know how you feel; stick to the facts and not accusations. After talking to them, you can set boundaries as to what behavior is acceptable and what isn't. Consistently stick to your boundaries and know it's okay to step back or say no. Sometimes, you unfortunately have to decide when it is time to walk away from the situation. If repeated conversations and efforts don’t change anything, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship. Your mental health and personal peace are much more important than trying to stay in a bad relationship or situation. 

In the end, understanding the difference between bare minimum and low effort is not just about labeling others; it's about protecting your energy and prioritizing relationships that truly matter. By communicating clearly, setting boundaries and knowing when to step back, you take control of your own well-being and create space for connections that are genuinely supportive and fulfilling. Never settle for low effort or the bare minimum. 

Sincerely,

Sara