Sincerely, Sara: How to Navigate Your Social Life with School?

By Sara Kaufman

Edited by Taylor Morgan

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School can often feel like a full-time job balancing classes, homework, clubs, jobs and more. Then, when you add in trying to have a social life, things can seem overwhelming or even daunting. Here’s the good news: Having a social life does not mean you have to sacrifice your grades, and doing well in school does not mean shutting yourself out from the world. With the right approach, you can find a healthy balance. Here are a few tips and tricks to help you strike the perfect balance between fun and work.

1. Prioritize, Do Not Overload

It can be very tempting to say yes to every hangout, party or dinner plan. But as soon as you overcommit yourself, you can easily burn out. Before you agree to have lunch plans with someone, double-check your schedule. If you have a big exam the next day or an early morning class, it’s okay to say, “I can’t hang out tonight, but let’s hang out this weekend.” As your friend, they should understand where you are

coming from.

2. Mix School and Socials 

There are different ways you can connect with your peers outside of class while still focusing on your academics. Study groups, club activities and group projects can be made surprisingly fun. Working with your friends turns your schoolwork into social time and you can often get more done and hold each other accountable. I would recommend trying to take gossip breaks, though!

3. Make Time to Recharge

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Social life and school can quickly burn you out. Make sure you set some time aside for yourself to reset and recharge. Taking small breaks for yourself can make a big difference in how you feel. Doing things like going for a walk, watching your comfort movie or simply taking a nap can help you to reset after a busy day. Whatever you choose to do, give yourself permission to slow down and just be.

4. Plan Ahead, Keep a Calendar 

Keeping a calendar has been one of the most helpful tools since I started college. Take the time at the beginning of the semester to insert all of your assignments, exams and quizzes into your calendar. Now, when you know you have a project due or a big exam that week, you can plan your social time accordingly. This way, you are not turning down every invite; you are just timing things smartly. 

5. Know your Priorities

There will be times when you have to pick school over your social life—and times when it’s okay to choose fun over another hour of studying. Make smart decisions that you know will benefit you in the long run. You may have to make difficult decisions, but it’s important to accept that those decisions are the right ones for you at that time. 

Balancing school and your social life is less about strict rules and more about intentional choices. Some weeks you might be more academic, while other weeks lean more social. It all depends on your needs at that time. The key is to stay honest with yourself and those around you, and also continue choosing what is best for you. Over time, the small intentional choices will create a rhythm that works for you. 

Sincerely,

Sara