The In-Between

By Paulina Adams

Edited by Taylor Morgan

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No longer, but not yet.

Nothing to hold on to, but nothing to run toward either.

Weird, right?

If you are anything like me, you tend to crave extremes. All or nothing. Fully in or completely out. We like clarity. We like knowing what’s next.

But life doesn’t always move in clean lines.

Maybe you are a senior trying to figure out your next steps, staring at the wide-open question of what now?

Maybe you are putting yourself out there, dating people, but nothing seems to stick.

Maybe you have outgrown a version of yourself, but not quite grown into the next one.

That space? That undefined, uncomfortable, stretching space?

That’s the in-between.

And it can feel like those long stretches on the highway. You know there are exits ahead, but you have no idea how far away they are. You keep glancing at the gas gauge, hoping there’s enough left to carry you through. Part of you wants to take the first exit you see, just to be done with the waiting.

But sometimes the growth is not in the exit.

Sometimes it’s in the drive.

One of the hardest things in life to balance is this: 

If it’s meant for me, it will find me 

and 

If I want it, I have to go out and get it.

So we panic and try to control the outcome.

The in-between does not respond to force.It responds to trust.

If you get off course—just like a GPS, life has a way of rerouting you. A missed turn does not ruin the journey; it just redirects it.

Everything you lose makes space for what you truly need. Not always what you want right now, but what will shape you and grow you.

The in-between asks you to stay open. Not forcing. Not begging. Just receiving. Receiving the lessons. The quiet. 

There’s strength in slowing down. In choosing purpose over panic.

The in-between is not wasted time. And if you are there right now. In that uncertain space, breathe.

You are being shaped into who you are meant to become.

And that kind of becoming cannot be rushed.